Unemployment, Job Searching and Relationships

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Unemployment, Job Searching and Relationships: While driving to work this morning, I realized that I have to spend several hours doing job coaching today with some people and started thinking of how I needed to structure my conversations,  somehow those thoughts lead me into all the conversations about relationships yesterday. Yup, I know…..my mind is [...]

Dating/Relationships and Female Gender Roles

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Earlier today, I wrote the note about women not making excuses for men and lowering their standards but there is always a flip side to the deal and here we are. We are talking about the dating process and beyond in relations to gender roles.  I do need to clarify what I mean by dating……. [...]

Dating Etiquette and Going ‘Dutch’

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A lady friend told me yesterday that three of her friends went on dates in the past week and in all three situations, the guys asked to dine Dutch style. This clearly set off all sorts of alarms in my head which leads to this note. Call me a male chauvinist, a pig, out dated, [...]

Lessons from a Community College on Fat Women

Last night, I had the pleasure of visiting Prince Georges Community College (#DMV) to watch a friend perform in a play called ‘The Most Massive Woman Wins’ and walked out feeling pretty good about the message of the play.  This play is set up as a political statement geared towards social change and honestly when [...]

Before You Commit: Starter Check List

Commitment

Don’t Rush To Commitment: In no way is this an all inclusive list enough and everything on this list will not apply to everyone, but no need to get defensive and dismiss any of it because of your personal  blinders or naiveté.  Also, I am no expert on successful relationships and I have never had [...]

HBCUs and Sex Tapes: March Madness

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I am not even sure what to say anymore, these sex tapes keep popping out. So no words needed……here you go. Yes I haven’t written in a while and this is what I return with. After the FAMU tape (whether FAMU people claim it or not), conversations on twitter and fb brought to light that [...]

Should We Stop Donating $$$ To Haiti Relief Efforts?

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This question seems absurd considering we are only 2 weeks from the disaster that hit Haiti and a good majority of us are still in a very emotion based reactionary mode.  While this question is not advocating halting donations to the people of Haiti in this great time of need…..I simply ask because the thought [...]

Tiger Woods, The Salahis/Party Crashers: The Big American Media Swindle

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I haven’t written anything in a while but there has been too much f*ckery going on this past week on the Idiot Tube aka the American Media so I will get both of them out w/ one blog posting. Once again, we are allowing ourselves to fall into the media trap and further confusing the [...]

(Post) Racial Society: Racism, Bad Jokes, Black Face and Buncha’ Questions

(I always have more questions than I will ever have answers….I am all about learning. I ask questions to gain insight and other perspectives….carry on) If we were to list the top 5 reasons why friends can become enemies within one conversation, the subject of RACE and/or Racism would have a strong foothold in that [...]

Dear Black Woman: Do you have ‘Good’ or ‘Bad’ Hair?

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Did you see the Chris Rock documentary, ‘Good Hair’? If no, go see it. Unfortunately for Chris, I think that some people who will watch his documentary (Good Hair), will walk out of that movie theater (or bootleg laptop screen) with the wrong message.   If you walked out of seeing that film thinking any of [...]